Your wedding day, it’s the best day of your life! Well, yes, it should be, but the planning certainly is not the best. It can be difficult, expensive, stressful. We must take into account what we want, but also what family wants, as well as your other half’s family, friends, conventions, etc. This is all before we even go into the actual planning and booking of everything. Fear not, here we will go through the five toughest decisions you will have to consider when planning a wedding.
Where? The question that precedes all others will inevitably influence every other choice you are going to have to make. The first point is to address any religious observances in either of your families. Are they essential to either of you? If so, then you work around that. If they are important to extended family members, it is not to say you shouldn’t incorporate their views, but always remember it’s your day. Visit several venues before deciding and be sure to ask if everything is included and are then any hidden extras for any part.
OK, so you know where it’s going to be. This means you know your maximum guest numbers. There are tough choices now, and there’s no getting around the fact that some people are going to be disappointed and even angry. One good tip is to try and organize people into groups: close family, extended family, school friends, college friends, work friends, etc. The reason for doing this allows you to try and ensure there isn’t one single person from a particular group being excluded.
All eyes will be on you and your dress. Yes, your man may want to have a nice suit, but let’s be honest, it’s not going to be the main focus. There is so much choice in wedding dress styles, so there’s always going to be something that’s right for you and your shape. Ensure you visit an established shop with a good reputation to help you decide and make sure it fits well.
By the wedding party, we’re not talking about the entertainment, that’s coming later. No, what we mean is choosing your Maid of Honor and Best Man for him. This can be as delicate a task as compiling your guest list, and with even more potential for upset. Do you choose your childhood best friend or your sister? What if you have two sisters? You may want to consider if you’ve been asked in the past or not? Talk to your friends who weren’t selected and remember you can have as many bridesmaids as you like.
Entertainment for the reception is also particularly important. Band or a DJ? Either way, it’s essential to research them thoroughly, read reviews, even meet them to get a feel for their character, and if it will fit with yours? Sometimes wedding venues have in-house bands or entertainers that can save a bit of money if you’re unsure.